Where Can I Turn for Peace?

from Meghan

Last week seemed to be a tsunami of shocking developments in the reaction to COVID-19. Every time I received a text or checked Facebook, there were new announcements: senior missionaries coming home from Europe, dramatic increases in numbers of people diagnosed in Italy, empty shelves in grocery stores, cancellation of the NCAA basketball tournaments, suspension of Church services and activities worldwide, and—right at bedtime—the announcement by Michigan’s governor that all K-12 schools would be shutting down for three weeks. Any one of these would be shocking and unsettling, but as they came one after another, I felt that I was in a fast-moving disaster movie.

During the day I received calls from my children, who live in various places around the country, far from me. As tensions rose, I shared with them strategies they could use to center themselves and create peace and calm in their homes, for themselves and their families.

One of the tools I find helpful is a Fear List. It is simple but very powerful. There are three steps:

  1. Identify our fears. We write a Fear List, which includes all our current fears, big and small. This is hard. It feels like writing them down might make them more real or likely to occur. Sometimes we sense a terrible possibility, lurking in the shadows, and we believe that if we avert our eyes it will go away. If we make eye contact, it might charge. But the opposite is true. When we can write down and name our fear, it gives us greater power. That power increases as we move through the next steps.
  2. Face and own our fears: When we name our fears and acknowledge the way they are controlling our lives, we begin to see things as they really are. Sometimes just facing that terrible possibility and shining a light on it helps us to see it in the context of our lives and our faith. We may realize we are powerless in a situation, but not helpless. Calling our fear by name begins the process of owning and responding to it in a healthy way. A slogan that reflects this is “name it to tame it;” we might already do this with our children, helping them to name the emotion they are feeling. When we face and own our fears, we begin to tame them.
  3. Prayerfully surrender our fears to our Savior: This is where we find real relief and comfort. Beside each fear on our list, we write “Even if this happens, my Savior will always sustain me.” If our fear is for our family members, we might add “and work in my loved ones’ lives for good.” There is a fundamental shift here, from our panic that we can’t control everything and keep bad things at bay, to releasing that impossible responsibility and trusting our future to a loving God. We exercise our agency by surrendering our fears to God, because He cannot take from us what we are unwilling to give.

I’ve used the Fear List tool over and over, for specific issues or for a general check-in. It is especially helpful when I’m facing something over which I have little control (pandemics, that kind of thing). I keep this tool in my back pocket.

Let Go and Let God OA

Literally in my back pocket is another incredible tool. I carry a whole bookcase of scriptures and other books and resources. Two passages of scripture come to mind today.

In Joseph Smith—History 1:15 we observe Joseph’s fear of the dark and destructive power which seizes him. At the critical moment of becoming ready to “sink into despair and abandon [himself] to despair,” he exerts all his power to call upon God to deliver him and he is indeed “delivered from the enemy which held [him] bound.” Joseph exercises agency to call upon God for help.

Alma relates a similar experience to his son Helaman, though the backstory differs from Joseph’s. Alma is racked with torment and harrowed up by the memory of his sins. The thought of coming into the presence of God fill his soul with “inexpressible horror.” Yet when he remembers the teachings of his father, that “one Jesus Christ, a Son of God, [would] atone for the sins of the world,” Alma calls upon Jesus for mercy.

The change is instantaneous. He exclaims “my soul was filled with joy as exceeding as was my pain!” (Alma 36:14-20).

The lesson for me from both of these accounts is the same: I can exercise my agency to call upon God for mercy and deliverance. I can offer my fears, my darkness, my despair to Him and trust that He will lead me beside still waters. I exchange the struggle for surrender to my faith in His good will.

Turning to God and calling upon His grace and mercy is the foundation for the “peace which passeth understanding.” But I also learn from the story of a little boy who was afraid during a thunderstorm. His father told him he didn’t need to worry; God loves him and will take care of him. The little boy said “I know God loves me, but right now, I need somebody who has skin on.” Jesus Christ is my Savior, my Eternal Hope (and yes, He is embodied). But I also need friends “with skin on.” I need ministering sisters and walking buddies and a really good massage therapist.

Especially during a time of “social isolation” to inhibit the spread of disease, we need connection. Our baptismal covenants gather us to a community of Saints, to serve and be served. President Spencer W. Kimball taught “God does notice us, and he watches over us. But it is usually through another person that he meets our needs. Therefore, it is vital that we serve each other.” As I stay in connection with friends and family through phone calls, emails, text messages, and even social media, I am grateful for the ways in which I can continue to express and feel love.

While we must support one another in perilous times, there is no substitute for Jesus Christ, no other source of peace or salvation. I don’t need to earn His help; I simply need to ask. One of the most beautiful, sincere and effective prayers is “God, please help me.” That asking, that moment of turning to Him invites the love and power of Heaven  As he comforts me, my hands are strengthened to lift others, to point them toward the Light of the World, and to walk together toward hope and healing.

Frozen 2: Journey Through the 12 Steps

FrozenRecovery is Letting Go and Allowing Growth

Anna’s song is familiar to me; I hear hope, despair, resolve, pain, and, most importantly, trust in that Tiny Voice that is the foundation of 12-Step recovery. She is willing to be willing. Each painful step forward moves Anna to a future beyond anything she (or the audience) can imagine. She makes amends for long-past wrongs, and in doing so, frees herself and others from the impact of those wrongs. This is a story of growth, of setting things right, of letting go of fear and allowing others to grow while they each choose to do the next right thing for themselves. The best part? This Disney movie, this fairy tale, is real. Not the talking snowman. But the courage, the progress, the hope when hope seems gone, the fellowship that supports each of them as they do their own work—it happens every day. I feel it when I attend or call into a 12 Step meeting. It is coming home.

Read the rest of this article at Meridian Magazine

Naughty or Nice

from Britney

A friend of mine shared an experience his wife had with their daughter a few Christmases ago. She sat down with the young child to help her write a letter to Santa. The mother began writing: “Dear Santa, this year I have been…”

She paused and turned to the little girl to ask whether she had been naughty or nice. At first, the child wasn’t sure how to respond. After thinking for a moment, she insightfully replied, “Just say that I was happy!”

The lesson this wise little one expressed through her response to a tough question is one that we learn in Healing Through Christ. Step Five reminds us that “even though we have made mistakes, we are still precious children of a loving Heavenly Father.”1 Because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, through repentance, we can overcome the sorrow of our errors, and we can feel happy.

Our failures in life are part of Heavenly Father’s plan for us. He sent us here to grow, and mistakes teach us powerful lessons. He doesn’t shame us when we make a wrong choice, and we don’t need to do that to ourselves. We are not bad people. Elder Boyd K. Packer taught: “You are a child of God. He is the Father of your spirit. Spiritually you are of noble birth, the offspring of the King of Heaven. Fix that truth in your mind and hold to it. However many generations in your ancestry, no matter what race or people you represent, the pedigree of your spirit can be written on a single line. You are a child of God!”2

Although Santa Claus might deny gifts to those who have been naughty, our Heavenly Father wants to give us many gifts. We only have to be willing to receive them. He does not require perfection. His gifts come when we choose to turn to Jesus Christ and invite His healing grace into our lives. His gifts bring joy and peace.

His gifts bring joy and peace. (1)

Instead of thinking about yourself in terms of “naughty or nice,” consider whether or not you are feeling the joy that comes from placing Christ at the center of your life. If not, you can ask Heavenly Father for help.  He wants you to be happy, and He will lead you there if you put your trust in Him and faithfully follow His guidance. If you make more mistakes along the way, just keep trying. As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland reminded us, “God doesn’t care nearly as much about where you have been as He does about where you are, and with His help, where you are willing to go…every day ought to be the start of a new year and a new life. Such is the wonder of faith and repentance and the miracle of the gospel of Jesus Christ.”3


1 Healing Through Christ – Help, Hope, and Healing for those who have a loved one in addiction, 51

2 Boyd K. Packer, “To Young Women and Men,” Ensign, May 1989

3 Jeffrey R. Holland, “Remember Lot’s Wife,” BYU Devotional, Jan 2009

Give The Twelve Steps to Yourself This Year

The Christmas season can be both joyous and stressful as we celebrate our Savior’s birth, while trying to meet everyone’s expectations, including our own. Spending more time with family can be enjoyable or difficult, depending on the health of the relationships. How about giving yourself a gift that will keep on giving?

Christmas gift

The Healing Through Christ Family Support 12-Step meetings will be starting a new series beginning the week of Sunday, December 8th. While any time is the right time to start the 12 Steps, people often want to begin at the beginning—here’s your chance. And this time of year is the perfect time to provide an hour of peace for yourself, an oasis of self-care and reflection in the midst of a busy, giving time of year.

The Family Support group was originally designed for people with a loved one in addiction, but it is equally valuable for

  • People with strained relationships with loved ones
  • People with a history of trauma
  • Those who are mourning the loss of a loved one, whatever that loss may be—death, leaving the faith of their childhood, strained and unhappy relationships
  • Men and women struggling with their own attraction to an addiction
  • Those who are resisting the allure of perfectionism
  • People who simply feel overwhelmed by life and its demands
  • Those who are in pain, emotional or physical

As you can see, anyone can benefit from the Twelve Steps—they bring us to Christ and help us to be honest with Him and with ourselves about what is and what is not in our control. We develop the ability to recognize and release the things we cannot control and find strength to change the things—primarily within ourselves—that need to be set right.

Won’t you join us? Will you do this for yourself and join a supportive, loving, safe group of people who will walk with you on a path to greater peace in your life? Will you be with us each week as we celebrate the tidings of great joy, and find the peace which passeth understanding?

Call into a meeting today—you can just listen until you are ready to speak. There are meetings every day of the week, mornings, afternoons, and evenings. Meeting information is available at www.thearborkalamazoo.com/phone-in-meetings or you can message us for more information.

The Twelve Steps of Healing Through Christ will change your life. You will feel greater peace and happiness. Give yourself this gift and feel the power of the Redeemer of the World as He heals your soul.

Spiritual Splinters

from Britney

I was cleaning the kitchen one afternoon when my six-year-old son came in from playing outside. He was clearly upset.

“Mom! I have a splinter in my hand!” he exclaimed.

“Can you show it to me?” I asked.

As he cautiously held out his hand, I could plainly see the splinter. As far as splinters go, I knew this one would be very easy to remove. It was sticking out quite far from his skin. “Let me get some tweezers, so I can pull that out for you,” I said.

“NO! It hurts SO bad!” he cried.

“It will be very easy to remove. It won’t hurt at all,” I calmly replied. “It’s going to be more painful if you leave it in.”

Refusing to allow anyone to touch his sore hand, he emphatically declined my offer to help. He went back to playing, troubled by the tiny foreign object sending pain through his little hand but not ready to face the fear of having it removed.

I have seen my young children make this choice before. In the past, there have been times when I’ve forced them to let me take out their splinters. I would struggle to hold them still while trying to grab onto those minuscule pieces of wood lodged in their skin. My kids always hated it. They would squirm and cry, and I never had much success helping them in those conditions. Over time, I’ve learned that, for a simple splinter, it’s better not to touch it until they’re willing to let me help them.

Sometimes I’m like a child with a splinter. I have painful emotions, weaknesses, or sins that I know are hurting me, but I’m afraid to let my Savior remove them. I feel scared that the process of allowing Him to heal me is going to hurt more than my current suffering. Just as my son protected his splinter from any aid I could give him, I also often guard the painful areas of my life from the Lord because I fear His help will cause more soreness for me. I would rather live with the familiar pain than risk any further discomfort.

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As I work the twelve steps of Healing Through Christ, I’m reminded that Jesus Christ is patient and kind. He feels empathy for my pain, even if it is self-inflicted. When I cling to unhealthy feelings and behaviors, He doesn’t abandon or condemn me. He wants me to turn to Him whether or not I’m completely ready to trust Him. He understands why I feel afraid, and He wants to help me release my fears and grow in faith. In Step Two, as we learn to surrender our fearful emotions, we realize that “because our Savior respects our agency, He will not take from us what we are not willing to give. We become ready to willingly give and completely surrender our fears to Him, then we prayerfully ask our Savior to take from us the fearful emotional burdens that are creating so much hopelessness and pain in our lives.”1

In Step Six, we become ready to let God help us. “When we truly desire to change, we will become willing to let go of our old ways of doing things and trust that the spirit of the Lord will teach us new ways. This desire is increased when we fully comprehend how this choice will bless our lives.”2 Working the twelve steps of Healing Through Christ helps us learn how to put more trust in our Savior. We learn to believe in His ability to calm our troubled hearts, strengthen our weaknesses, and lead us to change.

Richard G. Scott taught: “Many of you suffer needlessly from carrying heavy burdens because you do not open your hearts to the healing power of the Lord…lay the burden at the feet of the Savior. He has invited you to do that so that you can be free from pointless worry and depression.”3 We’re reminded in our support group meetings that “as we pray, seek the Lord’s guidance, read our scriptures and work the Steps on a daily basis…we will find hope, we will feel peace and we will experience joy again.”4 These spiritual habits keep us close to God. When we invite His spirit into our lives daily, we develop a more trusting relationship with Him. With this increased trust, it becomes easier to allow Him to remove our spiritual splinters before they become too painfully embedded in our lives. We will want to reach for Him when we feel broken and hurt. He will comfort us as He carefully, and often very gradually, takes our uncomfortable feelings, weaknesses, and sins away. If we let Him, He will gently unbury the hurt lodged in our spirits, and we will live free from fear and pain.

1 Healing Through Christ – Help, Hope, and Healing for those who have a loved one in       addiction, 23

2 Healing Through Christ – Help, Hope, and Healing for those who have a loved one in addiction, 61

3 Richard G. Scott, “To Be Free of Heavy Burdens,” Ensign, Nov 2002

4 Michigan Healing Through Christ, “Family Support Group Phone Meeting Format,” Closing section, para. 2


Before They Were Ours

from Britney

In Healing Through Christ, we learn to apply the spiritual adage, let go and let God. We put this principle into practice as we allow Him to do for our loved ones what we are not able to do. We recognize that “God manages things better than we do.”1 Several years ago, I learned the value of letting go and letting God when I faced a challenge with my oldest child.

We moved from Arkansas to Michigan for an employment opportunity right before my son started Kindergarten. I didn’t know much about Michigan before moving there, but I knew enough to expect bitterly cold winters. I couldn’t remember ever wearing a pair of snow pants as a child in the South, much less going to school (or anywhere) in winter weather. The idea of sending my very young little boy to school in several inches of snow wearing insulated pants, boots, hat, and mittens was completely foreign to me. He was so small. I didn’t know if he could handle it. In addition to the stresses of unfamiliar weather and wardrobe, I had other fears about sending my first baby out into the world. He was a homebody who had a lot of anxiety about facing anything new.

One day in November, the first snow started to fall. Before school the next morning, I had a very worried little boy who did not like the idea of adding layers of clothing to his routine. I couldn’t convince him to put on any of his snow gear. His fears came out in the form of tears. I tried to console him as we were running out of time to make it to the bus stop. He continued to sob. I assured him that he would have help at school to learn new procedures. I reminded him that other kids were learning too. I silently prayed for help followed by a prayer aloud with him. It didn’t seem to help. I knew I would have to drive him to school and hand-deliver him to his teacher. I gathered his two younger siblings, and we all headed to school. Still in our pajamas, we walked our sad boy through the halls to his classroom with the sound of swishing little snow pants all around us. I explained his worries to his teacher, reassured him, and turned to leave. It broke my heart to say goodbye. He was emotionally overwhelmed, and his teacher was busy tending to the chaos of a classroom of almost thirty little kindergartners. As I left, I wanted nothing more than to go back, scoop up my little boy, and bring him home with me where he really wanted to be, but I tried not to worry.

Later that morning, I received a call from a school specialist. She told me she had pulled my son out of class for an assessment, and she was calling me to report how it went. Before she shared the results with me, she said, “When I sat down with your son, he rested his head on my shoulder for a little while. It was very sweet.”

“He had a hard morning,” I replied.

After we ended our conversation, tears of gratitude filled my eyes. I knew at that moment that Heavenly Father was aware of my child. Even though he was in a class full of other students with only one teacher to care for them all, Heavenly Father provided a way. He sent another loving adult to sit with my little one and give him the attention and comfort he needed on that particularly difficult day. I not only recognized Heavenly Father’s love for my child, but I also felt His awareness of me. What if the school specialist had waited to call me, or what if she hadn’t even told me about the tender moment she had with my son? I believe she was prompted by the Spirit to contact me right away and share it all with me. I believe Heavenly Father knew my worries and heard my prayers. He wanted me to know that this child, who was so dear to me, was in good hands and that He had sent help. He wanted to comfort me.

Elder Orson F. Whitney taught that our children “were [God’s] before they were [ours]—long before he entrusted them to [our] care; and [we] cannot begin to love them as he loves them.”2 No matter the age of our children, whether they are small or grown, we can trust that Heavenly Father will work in their lives in ways that will touch them. Through their challenges, He will provide help and important lessons tailored to their needs. He knows them well, and He knows how to bless them. We can pray with them and for them. We can walk with them and support and encourage them, but the responsibility to care for our children is not entirely on us. When they’re out of our reach, He will send others to sit with them and help carry their burdens. When they’re alone and face overwhelming trials, He will wrap His loving arms around them.

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On that snowy November day in Michigan, I realized that I can place my fears as a parent in the hands of God and trust that He knows the best way to care for all of His children, including my children. I learned what it means to let go and let God

1Healing Through Christ: Help, Hope, and Healing for those who have a loved one in addiction, 26

2Orson F. Whitney, in Conference Report, April 1929, 110

Thanks to Britney for submitting this post. If you would like to submit a post that reflects your hope, faith, and experience with the Steps, please send it to thearborkalamazoo@gmail.com



Our Father Hears Us

from Britney

Recently I felt frustrated with a perceived lack of God’s help in my life. I had been working hard to improve my relationships, yet I didn’t think I was making any progress. In fact, it seemed that I was actually experiencing more challenges and less spiritual guidance than I had in the past despite my continued efforts to stay close to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. My frustration led me to feel somewhat rebellious. If I was doing my best to obey and I didn’t seem to be getting any help from heaven, why should I even bother trying? This state of defiance dulled my sense of right and wrong. I felt as if there were forces inside of me pulling me in two opposing directions, and it was spiritually painful. My spirit was torn.

After identifying these negative emotions through writing, I knew I needed to share them with Heavenly Father in prayer. Some time passed before I was ready to take that step, but when I finally did, I immediately felt a very specific prompting to read an old journal of mine. It was unexpected advice, but I quickly obeyed. As I read my own thoughts and experiences from years ago, I knew why I was guided to it. My testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ was scattered throughout my writing. In those entries, I enthusiastically declared my love of the scriptures and how important it was for me to have the influence of the Spirit in my life every day. I expressed a strong desire to do good always. I knew that the Holy Ghost led me to read that journal as a way to testify of truth to myself from myself. I was amazed that even though I had been upset with my Heavenly Father, He had been patiently waiting for me to come back to Him and ask for help. There was no delay in His response to my prayer despite my negative feelings toward Him.

Have patience

Later that evening, I prayed again. I spoke with Heavenly Father more about my disappointment with the absence of clear guidance from Him. Again, I felt an immediate answer to my prayer as the following message came into my mind: “Have patience. Your story is not over. I am still working in your life.” I knew it was true, and I asked Heavenly Father if He would help me better recognize His hand in my life. In the days following that experience, I was blessed with many opportunities to notice the love of God. He gave me guidance and inspiration through conversations, scriptures, talks, and other resources He placed in my path. I felt His awareness and compassion for me and the challenges I face. As I reestablished a closeness with God, the spiritual storm inside of me calmed, and I found it easier to discern what was right and choose it.

This meaningful experience taught me three valuable lessons about prayer. The first is that we can share all of our feelings with Heavenly Father, even the negative ones. Our prayers do not have to be nice if that is not how we feel. He will hear us and love us even if we are frustrated with Him. He will not turn His back on us when our emotions are unpleasant. The second lesson I learned is that God is always available and ready to bless us. No matter how far we have separated ourselves from Him, we only have to decide to turn toward Him, and we will find that He is still there ready to reconnect with us. Finally, I learned that we must be patient when we are searching for spiritual guidance. Sometimes, He doesn’t answer our questions in the way we want or at the time we want, but while we’re waiting, we can ask to feel His love. We can ask Him to show us that He is with us. “As we trust that God hears our prayers, we learn to exercise patience. President Dieter F. Uchtdorf assured us that ‘the answers to our prayers come in the Lord’s due time. Sometimes we may become frustrated that the Lord has delayed answering our prayers. In such times we need to understand that He knows what we do not know. He sees what we do not see. Trust in Him. He knows what is best for His child, and being a perfect God, He will answer our prayers perfectly and in the perfect time.’” (p. 34, Healing Through Christ family workbook)

I’m grateful for the powerful blessing of prayer. I know we have a loving Father in Heaven who hears us when we speak to Him. As His children, we have a right to communicate with Him, and no one is unworthy of that access. We can be ourselves with Him. He loves us and waits for us to reach out to Him because He wants to bless us.

Thanks to Britney for submitting this post. If you would like to submit a post that reflects your hope, faith, and experience with the Steps, please send it to thearborkalamazoo@gmail.com





What Do I Expect?

Expect good thingsThis week in Step Two we learned about hope and expectations. I’ve been intrigued for some time by the concept that people don’t break my heart, they break my expectations. Understanding that distinction has helped me recognize expectations that I may unconsciously impose on others. I’ve tried to become more aware of whether I am hurt because someone is unkind to me, or whether they just failed to respond to my internal, unspoken expectation. This concept has been very freeing for me, both in identifying my unspoken needs and being realistic about what I expect from others.

But this week, as we read about hope and expectations, I thought about it in a different way: which of my expectations are hurting me right now? I felt prompted to ask that question in my prayers, and I was shocked at the first thing that came into my mind. I expected (!) that I would think of something I was doing wrong, or perhaps that something I thought was not important was the exact thing Heavenly Father wanted me to be doing. I expected correction.

What I received was very different. The first thing that came into my mind was that I expected my family was angry at me about my shortcomings, and I was responding to them out of that expectation. I felt that I needed to let go of that expectation and accept their forgiveness and love. Other things came into my mind, and they all had to do with what I expected God or others thought about me. I realized I was being invited to let go of my expectations around others’ judgment of me, and as I thought about what that would feel like, I realized that those expectations really were hurting me and my relationships a great deal.

I’m eager to keep thinking and praying about this. I know I have expectations around what my husband wants or needs from me, my family, my friends, Heavenly Father. I have more questions for pondering and prayer, and I have a whole worldview to reexamine. But I think I will find a common theme of having more grace for myself, assuming more positive intent from others, and recognizing the difference between my expectations and the truth.

I love the section in Step Two of the Healing Through Christ Family Support workbook that talks about what I can expect:

When our expectations become firmly grounded in what God can and will do for us, our feelings of hope will increase and our spiritual and emotional health will be strengthened. A sure foundation on which to build our spiritual health is to expect that our prayers are heard by a loving Father in Heaven and that they will be answered. Expect that God will be with us to support, guide and sustain us. Expect that God’s plan will always result in our future happiness. …Our hope is based on an expectation that good things will come as we rely upon the guidance of our Father in Heaven.

These are all expectations that are grounded in truth: God hears me, He will help me, He plans for my happiness. I can depend on those expectations. And I can trust that identifying and praying about my other expectations will allow my Father to help me see things as they really are in my life and discard assumptions that are hurting me and my relationships.

I’ve been through Step Two many times. This week, as in so many other weeks, I was inspired to see something new, to ask new questions in my prayers and to discover a new way to strengthen my healing and recovery.



Join A Meeting

As people begin attending Healing Through Christ meetings, the most common reaction is “I wish I had known this years ago!” The principles and concepts which we discuss focus on increasing faith in Jesus Christ through a step-by-step process to feel the healing power of the Savior’s Atonement on a daily basis.

Jesus Christ Solution

Spiritual healing for individuals and relationships comes as a result of the following concepts, among others, that can be applied in many different situations:

  • Learning how to distinguish between negative thoughts and negative emotions and the appropriate way to respond to each
  • Respecting agency and honoring the process of personal growth
  • Setting healthy boundaries
  • Emotionally detaching from obsessing over others’ problems without detaching from the person
  • Understanding the emotional stages at work in our own and other’s lives
  • Recognizing in ourselves codependent rescuing, persecuting, and suffering behaviors
  • Trusting God to work in another’s life
  • Placing hope in our Savior, Jesus Christ
  • Learning how to believe in and experience the healing power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ
  • Clearing away clutter that interferes with our ability to hear and respond to the Spirit
  • Using tools such as a gratitude journal, fear list, and forgiveness practice to combine the power of emotional and spiritual healing

No problem-solving that happens in meetings; there are no discussions or cross-talk, so no one is giving advice to another person. These are not classes, and we do not teach a lesson or lead a discussion. All solutions come through the Spirit. In meetings we simply read the steps and the Spirit teaches and inspires the individual’s action to find solutions and healing through the Savior’s Atonement. We have a time to share our experience, faith, and hope, but we listen silently in appreciation and support as each of us shares or passes.

People come to meetings as a result of a wide variety of experiences. We often don’t know why a participant is there—the focus is on the solution, not the problem. But these are some challenges that have been helped by participating in Healing Through Christ meetings:

  • Strained relationship with a spouse
  • Need for new healthy ways of relating with adult children
  • Ability to preserve relationships in spite of concerns over wayward child such as
    • Children who leave the church
    • Children who develop drug or other addictions
    • Children who have come out as gay or lesbian
  • Life-threatening health crisis in children or grandchildren
  • Diagnosis of chronic health condition
  • Caring for children or adult family members with special needs
  • Caring for aging parents
  • Adult children who make poor financial, educational, or relationship decisions
  • Crisis of faith
  • Loved one’s addiction
  • Loss of a loved one to suicide
  • Ability to face relationship challenges without resorting to negative responses
  • Need to create internal boundaries that prevent rushing into rescue or fix children or teenagers
  • Increased ability to allow children to make decisions and learn from their own experience, rather than trying to manage their lives
  • Need to understand emotional stages of response to trauma, loss, change in circumstances, etc.
  • Strained relationships as a result of codependent behavior
  • Deep, hidden anger and learning how to heal through the 12 Steps and the Atonement of Jesus Christ
  • Sexual tensions in a marriage— trying to set boundaries for what is acceptable behavior
  • Recovery from anger at family and church leaders after the overdose death of a spouse
  • Fear as a result of job loss or marital problems; learning tools to process fear and let go and turn everything over to God
  • Struggles with depression and feelings of isolation
  • Struggles with anxiety and fear
  • Aftermath of childhood physical and sexual abuse
  • Struggle to stay faithful to covenants as a member with same-sex attraction
  • Emotionally abusive marriage
  • Effects of attachment disorders from childhood
  • Sexual and other addictions; we have a number of participants who find HTC helpful and encouraging for coping with their own addictions, especially for dealing with the underlying emotions and triggers
  • Bitterness from a contentious divorce
  • Anger at church members or leaders that led to inactivity
  • Need to develop a deeper ability to forgive
  • Struggle to understand the nature of addiction and why loved ones turn to the addiction when they promise and intend to stop
  • Need for a place that is safe to process difficult memories and find hope for the future
  • Opportunity to see others who are in the process of using the Atonement to overcome a variety of challenges we don’t feel safe discussing at church

If this seems like a very broad array of problems, it is because Jesus Christ is the solution to most problems, and Healing Through Christ helps us come unto Him. Will you join us and decide if there is something to bless your life in these meetings? We have call-in meetings every day of the week; find more information at www.thearborkalamazoo.com or email thearborkalamazoo@gmail.com.

Waiting at the Crossroads of Life

“Experiencing one miscarriage after another felt like a series of stoplights in my life, but as I turned to the Lord, I found that each loss was accompanied by peace, perspective, and growth.

“My fingers clenched the steering wheel as I stared anxiously at the red light. When it finally changed to green, I sped forward only to wait at another seemingly endless stoplight. I was still 10 minutes away from the lesson with the sister missionaries that was supposed to have started 5 minutes ago. If I had been a wiser mother, I would have predicted the 15-minute tantrum my almost-three-year-old daughter erupted into as we headed out the door, but I hadn’t. Yes, the world would go on if I was late, but since I was trying to do something good, didn’t I deserve at least some of the traffic lights to work in my favor? As I waited impatiently at yet another stoplight, I could feel my frustration tightening into anger. “I’m trying to do something good; trying my best! Where is the help I need?”

“Twenty months earlier, I had found myself asking parallel questions in a parallel situation, only in a place with all the peace and serenity that my stoplight moment lacked.”

We’re grateful for the insights Marianne, one of our previous posters and Healing Through Christ friend, shares in her heartfelt story. Read the rest of this beautiful account at the website Church of Jesus Christ.org